Advice please…
Dear Aunt Paddy,
I have recently broken up with my girlfriend of 1 year. It was hard break-up, but the fact that I received 26 missed calls on my phone from her over a 3 hour period convinced me the fact that I was right to go through with it.
It’s been over 2 weeks now since we broke up and I’m still receiving heart-felt text messages from her. Up until now I thought it was best not to reply to any messages, so that it would be easier for her to get over it. However today’s message was particularly strong and heartfelt, describing how much she was missing me.
My friends tell me that she always gets her way and that she’s just going to keep trying to contact me until I give in, and that I should change my phone number.
I know that I made the right decision, but how do I reassure her that everything will be ok when she gets over it without making it worse?
Yours,
Confused and texted out
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July 18th, 2008 at 2:31 pm
i think you should talk to her and tell her that she needs to get over you. sounds like she’s pretty heartbroken…. wouldn’t want to be in your shoes……
July 18th, 2008 at 10:33 pm
My best advice i can give to you is, you need to talk to your ex and explain why you ended things with her..people react different when a relationship ends..and she may feel insecure and is looking back on her past boyfriends and how they treated her..Dont start by changing you mobile number and cutting her off, as this will make you feel more worse then you already are. People can tell you what do to and give you false words about people, listen to your heart..and you will find the answer there!!
July 31st, 2008 at 12:57 pm
You need to be firm here. If you don’t, she will think she still has a chance with you. If living without her is really what you want, then stick to your guns and explain to her that your mind is made up and you won’t change. Sometimes in life you have to be cruel to be kind, unfortunately… I am sure she will soon find someone who wants her as much as she seems to want you.